A new year means new beginnings. It’s a universal thing — it’s like we get a brand new blank canvas to play with. We can’t go back to last year, but now we get a chance to do better, starting over with a fresh page in the next chapter of our lives.
The push to have a better year than the last one is based on our wholly understandable desire for a better life for ourselves, which is connected to our tendency to hitch our dreams to fresh starts. Just as well-known, however, is the short lifespan of New Year’s resolutions. For all our renewed hopes and aspirations, it’s easy to forget and rely on the habits, practices and mind-sets that ruled us last year — some of which may have contributed to the things we wish hadn’t happened. Here are a few tips to assist you so you don’t unwittingly set yourself back again this time.
Use your data of the previous year
Use your accomplishments and mistakes to help point out where you can focus on doing better and wiser this year. Mistakes are just that, missed-takes: you did something, it didn’t work. It might have made the situation worse, but you survived. If you paid attention, you’d know what not to do, and this can stand as the starting point for doing better.
Reviewing how and where you spent your time this past year quite literally makes your brain re-view and re-enact those incidents you remember. This mental re-enactment helps spark new ideas : what to focus on, what to ignore, what resources you overlooked then to work with, and how to put them to better use now, etc.
An in-depth review helps you recall the feelings that were behind certain decisions and their results, and all of that — memory, emotion, and aftermath– can help you classify more forcefully what things to drop, what to work on more, and what things to promote as being vital for a better future for you. Bitter lessons can leave the most lasting impression on how we do things next. Continue reading 3 Tips to Defeat Self-Sabotage This Year