23 November 2012, by A. Cedilla
After taking a look at the list of the top 5 regrets of the dying, I got to thinking about living and dying, and how I want to live my life. How would I feel if I looked back and saw the life I could have lived if I’d been a little braver, or a little bit more daring, and a little less uptight?
I didn’t want to have more regrets than memories, and see all the things I turned down because I was afraid, or careless, or simply wasn’t paying attention.
I also remember reading something about how in the next world, all of us will also be called to answer not just for what we did, but also:
“A person will be called to account on Judgement Day for every permissible thing he might have enjoyed but did not.” — Talmud
This is just a quiet little conversation. It won’t take that much time, so why not lean back, put your shoulders down, and just stay a little bit? Couldn’t hurt, yeah?
Life can be thought of a one big road trip, yes? And from the accounts of people who have shared their experiences about the really good road trips they had, there’s a consensus about the commonalities that made their journeys memorable: Continue reading Enjoying The Road You Travel
17 November 2012, by A. Cedilla
People have more things to deal with today that they have in the past. We also communicate faster, and that comes with a whole set of issues that have put increasing stress on our physical and mental limits.
- We get pinged and messaged and alerted and beeped, cutting into our crucial concentration.
- We can get updates on a minute-by-minute basis. Even if we don’t need it.
- We can get connected everywhere we can get a signal. Unless you plan for it, you can’t be alone with your thoughts.
How do you deal with the speed of life?
You don’t have to imagine, you know how fast things can pile up.
Maybe you have a large paper calendar or a whiteboard, with different pen colors for each family member on the wall beside the fridge.
You probably have a shared online calendar to back that up, as well as note-taking apps to remind you what to get at the grocery store. But how do you spread out the priorities that shuffle in each day and the multiple tugs for your attention, ones that pull you in different directions?
Using information demands increased cognition — but getting data is different from understanding it, which is also different from laying it out in a way that can be useful to your goal. It’s not enough to know the price of rice in China, or who the current mayor of London is, or how sugar crystallizes– unless you know how to use that information when you need it.
“But there’s no time, there’s never enough time!”
Then carve out spaces in your day, and make sure to protect their borders. Continue reading Defining Your Territory
09 November 2012, by A. Cedilla
When we talk of brains — you know, like someone being touted as being ‘the brains of the outfit’ or something similar — we’re talking about somebody who has has the smarts, the knowledge and the experience on tap when he needs them, and the eye to see how to use his resources to get things done. He knows the big picture and makes it happen.
“Brains” is vision in execution: the ability to extract useful knowledge from various knowledge sources and experience, and using that effectively to get the desired results.
And of course, there are other qualities we like to hear about and work towards calling our own. Like being someone having “nerves of steel”, or “the heart of a lion.” It feels kinda nice picturing yourself like that, isn’t it?
The thing in personal characteristics though, is that we’re socialized to measure ourselves against other people all the time.
From who gets the gold star to who brings homes the biggest chunk of bacon, we’re taught to look at other people as our competition, and to push ourselves and do better than them. Keeping-up-with-the-Joneses is a well-recognized phenomenon, and so is Beating-the-Joneses.
And when you fall into this tendency of thinking that what you have isn’t enough by itself — aughh, you’re just not good enough on your own — you get trapped into believing you have to look to other people to give what you lack, that only other people have it all together.
That’s giving your power away. Continue reading Lessons From Leaving The Yellow Brick Road