Monthly Archives: May 2012

You Gotta Dance

28 May 2012, by A. Cedilla

There are things in your life that no one else can do for you. If you don’t do them, they just don’t get done.

One of those things involves your life and the no-holds-barred, full-on living of it. No one can live you life for you, and vicarious living isn’t real living at all. What stops you from living out loud? Fear, anxiety, foreboding? You really can’t live a life flinching.

Many people die with their music still in them. Why is this so? Too often it is because they are always getting ready to live. Before they know it, time runs out.
Oliver Wendell Holmes

Life is not easy. It’s not supposed to be. Anyone who says that works for an advertising agency. Human beings grow by what we overcome, by what we endure, what we live through and survive and grow stronger from. We don’t grow from the things that make us shy away. We grow by learning what we are capable of, and that comes from living through the hard times.

One truth that’s hard to accept is that a lot of the stress and discomfort we experience comes from fighting against the inevitable. If we cling to an idealized vision of The Way Things Ought To Be, we don’t see the reality right in front of us. We’re living based on on an imaginary map, and that way inevitably leads to some very real problems.

  • We are all going to age and die. – Oh, noes! Shock! Le gasp! Horror! – But consider the alternative.
  • “Work is so hard!” – Then again, think of living with long-term unemployment and no savings. Think about having no aim or purpose that makes your mark on the world.
  • “I don’t like this, it’s just not me.” – Sometimes you find out who you are by finding out the hard way who you’re not.

It’s easier to find someone to blame — the economy, our parents, them — you know them…those people –but in the end, it’s our choice to keep on as we are, or to do something to change the path we’re on if it’s not to our liking. And if we can’t change the path yet, that doesn’t mean we dig in our heels and just stop. Life won’t stop for you. Ever. You have to keep moving, even if it isn’t all sunshine and daisies. Continue reading You Gotta Dance

How’s Your Compass?

21 May 2012, by A. Cedilla

“The map has been replaced by the compass.The map keeps getting redrawn, because it’s cheaper than ever to go off-road, to develop and innovate and remake what we thought was going to be next. Technology keeps changing the routes we take to get our projects from here to there. It doesn’t pay to memorize the route, because it’s going to change soon.The compass, on the other hand, is more important then ever. If you don’t know which direction you’re going, how will you know when you’re off course?And yet…And yet we spend most of our time learning (or teaching) the map, yesterday’s map, while we’re anxious and afraid to spend any time at all calibrating our compass.”Seth Godin

How do you tell if you’re moving in the right direction? Is it a gut feeling? Do you look at your bucket list? Do you consult the Tarot cards, or call up you parents, your rabbi, your favorite aunt? Maybe call up close friends for a focus group? How do you tell? Continue reading How’s Your Compass?

When Will You Get Around To It?

14 May 2012, by A. Cedilla

“In a moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing to do, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”
-Theodore Roosevelt

 

“Yeah, I’ll get to that later. Promise.”
“Don’t worry, it’s on my to-do list.”
“Sure, sure, just let me finish this first…”

You say the usual words, sure you have time, but then you blink — and it’s too late.

Something came up.

Something else happened and the opening you were counting on is gone.

Windows of opportunity close, the fork in the road disappears and you have no other choice. You blink, you stutter, you swear…and then you put your shoulder to the wheel and push. Grudgingly, resignedly, you push. You’ve got no choice, right?

But what if you do?

“Procrastination is the fear of success. People procrastinate because they are afraid of the success that they know will result if they move ahead now. Because success is heavy, carries a responsibility with it, it is much easier to procrastinate and live on the “someday I’ll” philosophy.”
Denis Waitley, motivational speaker and author

Procrastination is a mind-game you play with yourself, pure and simple. All the pressure and obstacles that you’re experiencing? They–and their supporting structures — are all happening in your head. It’s rare to find anybody past college not haunted by the Ghosts of Projects undone, or weighed down with the unwelcome realizations that they have a Lot Of Things To Do.

“Much of the stress that people feel doesn’t come from having too much to do. It comes from not finishing what they started.”
David Allen, productivity consultant, author

And it’s even more difficult when you forget to factor in human nature. Continue reading When Will You Get Around To It?