28 May 2012, by A. Cedilla
There are things in your life that no one else can do for you. If you don’t do them, they just don’t get done.
One of those things involves your life and the no-holds-barred, full-on living of it. No one can live you life for you, and vicarious living isn’t real living at all. What stops you from living out loud? Fear, anxiety, foreboding? You really can’t live a life flinching.
Many people die with their music still in them. Why is this so? Too often it is because they are always getting ready to live. Before they know it, time runs out.
Oliver Wendell Holmes
Life is not easy. It’s not supposed to be. Anyone who says that works for an advertising agency. Human beings grow by what we overcome, by what we endure, what we live through and survive and grow stronger from. We don’t grow from the things that make us shy away. We grow by learning what we are capable of, and that comes from living through the hard times.
One truth that’s hard to accept is that a lot of the stress and discomfort we experience comes from fighting against the inevitable. If we cling to an idealized vision of The Way Things Ought To Be, we don’t see the reality right in front of us. We’re living based on on an imaginary map, and that way inevitably leads to some very real problems.
- We are all going to age and die. – Oh, noes! Shock! Le gasp! Horror! – But consider the alternative.
- “Work is so hard!” – Then again, think of living with long-term unemployment and no savings. Think about having no aim or purpose that makes your mark on the world.
- “I don’t like this, it’s just not me.” – Sometimes you find out who you are by finding out the hard way who you’re not.
It’s easier to find someone to blame — the economy, our parents, them — you know them…those people –but in the end, it’s our choice to keep on as we are, or to do something to change the path we’re on if it’s not to our liking. And if we can’t change the path yet, that doesn’t mean we dig in our heels and just stop. Life won’t stop for you. Ever. You have to keep moving, even if it isn’t all sunshine and daisies. Continue reading You Gotta Dance